3 Rules Of Having A Successful Friends With Benefits Affair

 

So. You don’t want something serious, yet you want someone at hand for s3x, gifts etc.

But what are the golden rules you must adhere to?

1. Don’t Fall in Love – no matter how exciting and intriguing it might be for you, understand that the next person may not necessarily be feeling this way. DO NOT FALL IN LOVE!

2. Keep Your Affair Very Secret – It is all well and good to trust your friends. But understand that the moment you tell them you are engaged in this kind of affair, tongues would begin to wag.

3. Know When To Quit; Know when to run. Understand when to leave a relationship that has run its course.

Thank you for reading.

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4 Patterns Every Relationship Falls Into

Why do some relationships end in
marriage while others unravel?this seems like a very complicated

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question, research has found that relationships fall into 4 major patterns and one can help predict the eventual outcome of a relationship by figuring out which of 4 patterns it fits into. Below are the 4 major patterns every relationship falls into.
Partner-focused: “These couples are all about each other, every other person or any other thing is secondary, this is good because it could lead to marriage and strong emotional connection but on the
other hand it could be bad because one partner may be co-dependent on the other and people like this detach from friends and family when they are in a
relationship”.
Socially involved: “These type of couples have social circles and are very familiar with each other’s
friends, couples in this category who break up really have it rough but there is a high probability of them staying together if their friends and family approve of the relationship”.
Dramatic: “This is the “off and on” type of relationship, the constant fight, unreasonable drama makes their friends and family not want to see them stay together and these couples are more likely to break up than the other three patterns”.
Conflict-ridden: “For couples in this category of relationship, though they fight a lot, they are more likely to stay together than couples who fall in the dramatic group and for these couples, the fights they have are foreplay”.

7 Common Mistakes Every Married Couple Must Avoid

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Every couple that wants t­o enjoy prolonged marital happiness and peace must be ready to do all in their power to ensure that do fall into marriage traps.
Below are 7 marriage mistakes that are so common and deadly that every married couple must avoid.
Being too serious: “Most men are guilty of this, yes, we get it- you have to pay bills and house rent and all others, but that does not mean you should look so serious and stuck up all the time; please loosen up a bit”.
Refusing to argue: “A married life without arguments might seem perfect, but when you reconsider it, it’s actually kind of creepy as it suggests that a certain lack of deeper communication, or pretence; most likely, you will not like some things your spouse does, or some views they hold, which will lead to arguments, no matter how little once in a while but refusing to argue is
most times equal to refusing to iron out some issues in your marriage and this is not good enough”.
Never making the first move: “This mostly concerns women, even if your partner is usually the one who makes the move for s3x in your marriage, don’t ever be afraid to switch things up as this is one change that will add a lot of spice to your bedroom life, same rule goes for other acts of displaying affection”.
Public fights: “Little quarrels and squabbles are quite normal, even expected to happen once in a while in every marriage; but for everyone’s sake, please keep your disagreements behind closed doors”.
Never eating together: “If you have never eaten a meal with your spouse; or if you used to but not anymore, you should start it again; couples should frequently find time to enjoy a meal together as it
has the advantage of helping you develop
communication and togetherness”.

 

4 Love Destroyers People Often Overlook In A Relationship

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We all know one or the other about relationships, we all have an idea of what to do and not what to do in a relationship, how to make a relationship work, we know that relationship buzzwords are intimacy, trust, attention, care, surprises, amazing s3x etc.

The list is quite endless as many people get ticked by several different things in their relationship but some of those attributes and requirements often get overlooked or forgotten when people are listing requirements for a healthy relationship.

“Funny thing is that these things, just like all the other obvious ones play a part in what the relationship feels like, and what the eventual outcome will be”.

Below are 4 love destroyers that people often overlook in a relationship.

Disrespect: “Respect has been the strongest bond holding them together and what often triggers hurt or anger is disrespect when there’s mutual respect, couples have a firm foundation upon which they can stand and weather any storm that may face their relationship”.

Being too uptight: “Take note that engaging in serious play and rough play, sometimes with each other is one of the best ways to secure the bond between the two of you, serious conversations about goals and where you intend to be in the next years, or reminiscing about your [warped/unhappy] childhood together are not the only ways to do that”

Lack of validation: “It is often frustrating when a partner does not make the effort to understand what the other is saying, you necessarily do not have to agree with everything your partner says, what is wrong is when you actually do not make any effort to understand the opinion they are trying to express; your partner deserves your validation, as it makes no sense when you shut their opinions or ideas without even trying to see the merit there, you do not need to agree, but you can do is at least try to “get it”.

No space: “No one like to feel ‘boxed in’ in a relationship, that you are a couple does not change the fact that you both are still individuals with separate lives, interests, and responsibilities outside the relationship and if ignored, this is one aspect of relationships that could eventually snuff life out of what you both are trying to build so give your partner the space to breathe – let them be able to see their friends, do the things they were doing before they met you, they do not have to be around you all the time as you both need to maintain your own identity”.

Steps To Deal With Communication Problems In Your Relationship

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Communication is the key in any relationship, it solves a lot of relationship problems and also minimizes the tendency of getting one’s heart broken but every relationship has their own fair share of communication problems and also ways they work them out.
For couples experiencing communication problems in their relationships, below are ways you can work it out with your partner.
Realise your relationship has a problem: “The first step to repairing any communication problems in your relationship is actually realizing that your relationship has a problem, it is hard to admit it in the beginning, but once you do, you’ll feel so much better and know how to communicate with your better half”.
Talk a lot: “One of the biggest barriers that people experience when they are dealing with communication problems is the fact that they don’t talk, when they do talk, they typically fight so ladies, if you want to work out your problems with communication, you have to talk them out and actually coordinate some time to have a conversation with your man”.
Try a different approach: “So nagging and yelling hasn’t worked, right? why not try a different approach?it’ll work better and you could always just see if your man responses in a different way”.
Do not talk over each other: “If you’re having communication problems, it’s probably because you aren’t listening to one another, take a couple seconds out and really open your ears, instead of trying to get your point across”.
Do not get angry: “Just because you aren’t communicating the best, doesn’t mean that you have to get frustrated instead, keep your anger in check and I can problem that it’ll be that much better for your relationship and you won’t have nearly as many fights”.
Keep calm: “Ladies, make sure that no matter what, you stay calm. Blowing up just because of something that your man says isn’t the way to get his attention or the way to get your point across but instead, just make sure that you stay calm, cool and collected and also listen to him”.

How to Turn a Boring Relationship into Party of Love!

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We have all been in this situation. At first it was a passionate relationship. After a while, the fire of passion becomes a lot colder. How to Turn a Boring Relationship into Party of Love! How to Turn a Boring Relationship into Party of Love!
You get used to each other and then take each other for granted. And very often this turns into a constant sliding down of your relationship into a boring state of just staying together – losing all drive for each other just because you are so used to one another.
However, this is not how it needs to be. You can reawaken the lost passion for each other and turn a boring relationship into what it began as, a party of love.
Here are 10 tips for you to boil up the flame of passion in your relationship:-
1. Make an Adventure List
Is every day the same for you? From your way to the office, your job, your meals and your relationship? How to Turn a Boring Relationship into Party of Love! How to Turn a Boring Relationship into Party of Love! How to Turn a Boring Relationship into Party of Love!
Getting too much used to your relationship and taking each other for granted is a deadly poison. But this can be counteracted by some help from Indiana Jones – simply make your life and your relationship adventurous!
Collect a list of crazy, fun things you wanted to do with your partner, but haven’t managed to do so as yet. Break your limited thinking and go beyond your normal ideas of going to the movies. How to Turn a Boring Relationship into Party of Love!
Break the usual routine and do the “not so normal” things with your loved one:-
* book a rafting trip
* go skydiving
* go on an adventure trip
* do some charity work
You see you don’t have to kill snakes to revive your love life. Just do something out of the ordinary. Do something bold and adventurous together.
2. Create a List of Things you Always Wanted to Do.

There must be many things you always wanted to do. Besides the adventure stuff that I already mentioned, over the years there must have been many things that you mentioned to each other, about what you wanted to do. But then circumstances took you away from doing them. How to Turn a Boring Relationship into a Party of Love!
Keep a note of these things. Write down what you always wanted to do, where you always wanted to travel, what your partner always wanted to see, and what he or she smiled at, whenever they saw it.
Keeping a notebook with all these little things allows you to come up with ideas to surprise your partner without you getting stressed over it.
Also note, what makes your partner smile. If you can enjoy these things together it will make your love and passion grow.
If you write it down on time, it will save you lots of headache in the years to come.
Do childlike things together. Just remember – why would you ever want to grow up anyway!
3. Plan your Time
Don’t let another weekend slip by. Get out your lists, and remove any blocks of comfort. Make the next weekend a project of passion. Book a romantic hotel, arrange a candlelight dinner, book a safari, be outrageous and surprise your partner.
You wouldn’t take on a business project without a plan and a schedule. So shouldn’t your love life be the most important project in your life? Schedule it and share it.
Plan mini-dates, where you might meet for a romantic dinner or spend some time in a luxury hotel together. Let your imagination run wild.

4.Create Precious Moments of Passion
Passion does not come from the big gestures, but from tiny, special gestures full of awareness.
We always think of passion as this big, explosive thing. Yet that is not what passion is really about. It is simply about the small things and the way you did and felt those special moments:-
* The way you touched, when you were deeply in love.
* The way you smiled whenever you saw each other.
* The way you looked into each other’s eyes.
* The way you held each other’s hands.
* The way you said “I love you”
Tonality and intonation convey so much more information than the actual word.
Go one step further, and create your ideal valentine’s day everyday!
Remember how you said “I love you” in those early moments of your love – and say it just like that. I am sure the goose bombs will soon come back when you do so!
Becoming aware of these special things is the key. Be in the moment and just focus on that touch, that kiss and that look – experience it with all of your senses.
When the relationship was new, that awareness of precious moments was automatic. Now you just have to become a little more proactive to recapture it.
Don’t fall in love, create love instead!
5. Speak to the Left Eye
There is something very intimate about our eyes. They are called the windows to the soul, and looking into each other’s eyes is a very powerful way of opening up and letting your souls touch each other.
One very powerful way to do this is to get your heads real close, and you will notice that if you come real close, your eyes are switching from focusing on your partner’s left to right eye.
If you want to speak directly to your lover’s soul, you should focus on their left eye. Every word you will speak, while focusing the left eye will have a very different quality compared to speaking while focusing on the right eye.
It is because you are stimulating different parts of their brain. Looking in the left eye and softly saying “I love you” is one of the most intimate things you can do with your partner.
Try it today as soon as you can.
Also, whether or not you believe in soulmates, it’s all about what you are willing to do to create a soulmate like relationship.
6. Learn to Laugh again Together
Laughter is one of the best medicines in the world. Remember what it was like to be child-like! !
Why would you ever want to grow up anyway!?
Remember also that laughter is one of the best ways to strengthen your bond with people.
Make a plan to get more laughter into your life. Watch comedy movies, join a laughter class or yoga.
Tell each other jokes, make a commitment to come each up with one good joke a day and share it with your partner, and don’t be shy with it – yes you can even share the “dirty” ones (for men: I know a lot of women, who like dirty jokes too).
7. Share your Erotic Dreams with your Partner
Sex is a crucial part of a healthy relationship. And it is very often the first part where passion will go to sleep, and be replaced with routine and boredom. And eventually external stress will even kill that little rest of intimacy.
Again don’t let it happen. Don’t let this vital part of your relationship die a slow death.
Remember how you felt the first time you touched each other and got intimate. You had fantasies and you enjoyed the game. And it is vital to remember that sex is nothing but a game to play (yes it will also bring the kids to life, but that is not something you should focus on to reawaken your love life.) Learn to play it again. Have fun. Giggle a lot before, during and after. Don’t take it too seriously.
Also do talk to each other a lot about it. Do you have fantasies? Do you want to be touched in a specific way? Don’t think that your partner will get it via telepathy. No – tell him or her. Don’t be shy. Speak to each other about it.
And play, play, play – a lot!
8. Learn the Art of Touching
This tip one goes hand in hand with your erotic experience, yet touching has many layers of experience. Become aware of your own reactions to touch. If your lover touches your shoulder in that special way, what reactions does that trigger within you?
Talk about it. Tell your lover, what feels good. And where it feels good. Explore each other’s sensisitive areas. But don’t stop there.
There is a quality to hugging, embracing, holding hands, touching the neck or the face. All of these send different signals. Become aware of it and tell your partner how you feel inside.
9. Talk About your Inner and Outer World
Relationship is all about sharing. And it is also about sharing the world you live in as well as sharing the world that lives within you.
Tell your partner about your day, but also about your dreams, hopes, ambitions, fears, worries. Invite him or her into your world and join theirs.
Opening up yourself in this way will not only revive the passion in your life, but will open up new layers of love.
And stop being an approval seeking machine!

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10. Rejoice every Moment with your Partner – Since Time is Limited
After a while you take each other for granted. But this is just an illusion. You should always remember that your time here on earth and the time with your partner is very limited. There are only so many years you can share together.
Actually, every breath you take brings you and your partner closer to the moment, when you will pass away. But this shouldn’t bring you into a state of sorrow – instead it should bring you into an awareness of the moment.
There is only one moment, when you can fully experience joy, passion, love and happiness together. And that moment is NOW – each one of you can leave this earth the next minute (if God or whatever you believe in decides so).
So become aware of the joy you can share now with your lover. Become aware of the happiness that will fill your whole being, once you allow it to.
Become aware that this moment right now is precious and a gift.
Celebrate this moment with your loved one – take the gift of life, love and happiness and rejoice in it. That’s where passion is born from.
To end, make every moment from now onwards with your partner one of love and passion – and indeed, create a party of love.
By-Arvind Devalia

Guys: 6 Things Need To Stop Doing Once You Have A Relationship

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Relationships can be so sweet and interesting when you and your partner have a mutual understanding if you have been a single guy for long and you just get into a relationship you might be rusty and not know how to handle a relationship again. There are some
things every man has to stop doing once they have a relationship.
There are some things every man has to stop doing once they have a relationship, here are things every
guy needs to stop doing once you have a relationship.
1. Don’t go out with her friends: Never hang out with your woman’s friends without her there, you never know which of them are jealous of your
relationship and are just waiting for an opportunity for you to make a mistake and use it against you.
2. Not everytime brothers before women: It is high time you drop that saying of “Bro before hoes”, now that you have a woman endeavour to spend more time with her, it is understandable you will want to hang out with your friends but stop spending time with them and ignoring your partner.
3. Never make fun of her in front of other people: Never make your woman an object of discussions in front of others and never make her a case for your jokes no matter how funny it might be.
4. STOP PORN:“When you frequently go online to masturbate, you’re not only wasting your libido on your hand you’re also raising the bar for your
girlfriend’s performances. It is bad enough that she has to compete with all of your exes—don’t make her compete with p0rn, too and s3x is a way for you two to connect, not a way for you to fulfil your unrealistic, p0rn-fed expectations if you’re
getting some from a woman, give your hand a break”.
5. Don’t be a drunk: “Alcohol might be a magic poison that kills all of your insecurities, but it can also kill
your relationship”.
6. Don’t disappear without giving her notice: You have a woman now, you can’t just go off the radar
without prior notice if you need some time and space to alone communicate it to her and keep your relationship healthy and happy.