12 Signs to Recognize True Love When You Feel It-Fact Don’t Lie



You may be dating someone and one day they say they love you. Those are pretty significant words, but do you love them back? What is love exactly?

Just when you thought getting past the first date was stressful enough, you go through the whole “I love you” phase. Of course, it’s exciting. Your heart pumps, the butterflies flutter around in your tummy, but is this true love? What is love exactly?

I remember telling my first boyfriend that I loved him. I felt the butterflies in my tummy, but in my heart, I didn’t feel it. Naturally, the relationship didn’t last, but it wasn’t easy trying to accept and also figure what love is and isn’t.

What is love?

If you’re at crossroads where you try to figure out how you feel, you may ask yourself, what is love? I ask myself that question every time I’m in a relationship. Do I love this person and do they genuinely love me? How do I know? This isn’t easy.

Sometimes, we fall in love with the idea of someone or love someone who we think is a certain way but really isn’t. So, it’s not that easy of a question to answer especially when two people are involved.

#1 You can’t control it. If you think love is something you choose, you’re wrong. Love is actually an uncontrollable feeling. Neuroscientist Gabija Toleikyte told the Wired that these feelings reach deep into our subconscious. If you think this feeling is created in the moment, your brain has been processing this already in advance.

#2 It’s linked to biology. Well, here is where the whole idea of love becomes unromantic. Biologically, the feeling of love allows human beings to focus on one person for mating purposes. Essentially, this gives humans enough time to bond, make a baby, and nurture the child. I know you probably thought it’s about finding your soulmate. But actually, it’s about keeping the species alive.

#3 But what is love, especially true love? Here’s the thing, the feeling of love isn’t uniform. You will experience love differently than I will. Remember, we’re all different. How we were raised and the way we think about love plays a factor. If your family was very affectionate, you’ll probably associate love with affection. Though, if someone isn’t as affectionate, that doesn’t mean they aren’t loving people.

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 #4 It’s about accepting the bad and good. True love is about accepting their bad qualities. We all have bad qualities, it’s a part of being human. However, to love someone is knowing their bad qualities, yet, still wanting to be with them and share happiness with them. Sure, they always burp at the table and it pisses you off, but at the end of the day, you accept it without even blinking. That is love.

#5 It’s intense. Understanding what is love can be a little tricky especially when trying to divide love and lust. However, there are some feelings that differentiate the two. Love is intense. You’re moody, your energy is bouncing off the walls, you feel drunk. Lust is when you physically want that person, but love, while physical, is also highly emotional and mental. You don’t necessarily need to have sex with them. You just want to be around that person all the time.

#6 Your brain is highly active. When you’re in love, your brain is put to work. Dopamine and serotonin levels are at their highest. These hormones activate your rewards system in your brain. Meaning it activates your focus, energy, craving, and motivation. This is why when you’re in love, you feel like you can do anything and you actually do things that you normally wouldn’t do. You’re on a love high.

#7 Love at first sight? This has been a long debate of whether or not love at first sight exists. Though, scientifically it may not be the easiest to prove, if you experienced it then you know it’s possible. I had love at first sight with my ex-boyfriend, but I didn’t know what it was. I saw him, and I said, yes that’s it, that’s the one, and he thought the same. We were like magnets gravitating towards each other, it wasn’t controllable.

#8 People love in different ways. Though the feeling of love is universal, the way people express love varies. You have people who need to verbalize their emotions while you have others who will never say “I love you.” Does this mean their love is invalid? Absolutely not.

Love is emotion and how people process emotions are all individually based. This is why some couples have problems due to the fact that they communicate love differently than one another.

#9 Love isn’t abusive. Of course, love will make you angry and cry—this is a part of it. However, love isn’t supposed to mentally, emotionally, or physically degrade or suppress you. That isn’t love. Your partner should stand beside you, make you feel free. If that’s not the case, then you know that they don’t love you. This can be hard to hear, but it’s the truth.

 #10 Love is also based on DNA. Sadly, everything is connected to biology. When someone naturally smells good to us, it’s because our brains tell us that they do not share the same DNA as us. Crazy, right? So, though love is emotional, it’s also based on mating. We love people who have the opposite DNA. Therefore, if we have children, they’ll be genetically strong.

#11 Love doesn’t have to be sexual at first. There are many people who fall in love with people that they never thought they would want to sleep with. Love doesn’t have to start off with sexual attraction. It can start off with an emotional or mental connection and develop into physical attraction. Love is weird, what can I say.

#12 Love can last a lifetime. This is always a question people ask me, can love last forever? I think it can. Though, I believe it takes on different forms with time. When you’re in love during the honeymoon period, it’s a different love than being with that person for ten years. The connection grows, it deepens, life experiences change you and your partner, though it may not be that intense feeling, it doesn’t mean it’s not love.

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How to Deal with Jealousy in a Relationship


you Jealousy isn’t always a sign of weakness or insecurity. It could also be an expression of love. Understand how to deal with jealousy in a relationship and experience a happier relationship.

Jealousy in a relationship isn’t always easy to handle.

It can confuse anyone into believing that the relationship is threatened even if they’re in a perfect relationship.

Jealousy crops up in many ways, but in essence, it’s a sign of insecurity and the fear of losing the one you love.

And jealously in a relationship is never ever a bad thing. No one chooses to be jealous, and almost always it’s misunderstanding and lack of communication that leads to jealousy.

How to deal with jealousy in a relationship

You may get jealous of your partner for several reasons.

You may not like the fact that they’re hanging out with someone else and having a lot of fun, or you may just feel insecure about losing your lover to someone else.

While jealousy due to misunderstanding is acceptable, irrational jealousy isn’t.

When a partner is threatened or feels jealous for the smallest of reasons, it’s almost always a sign of social insecurity and low self esteem.

You may be driven by your fears of losing the one you love and your insecurities may reveal your jealousy as a plea for more love and care. It is human nature, after all, to crave for reassurance and love when doubt arises.

But you should always remember that jealousy is actually one of the biggest causes for the downfall of a relationship. So when you do feel jealous, you don’t bring your partner closer. In fact, you drive them away with your behavior!

Getting rid of jealousy

Learn to trust your partner and don’t doubt them unnecessarily. Regain your confidence and remember that they do love you, and your lover is not going to stop loving you by just talking to someone attractive.

Let there be no secrecy and if something bothers you, tell your partner in a clear and pleasant manner that you did not like or appreciate their behavior. This is a lot better than the good old show of the green eyed monster.

Coping with the green eyed monster

It’s hard to just smile and sit quietly while your partner is flirting or having a fun time with another attractive person, especially while you’re around. It may also make sense for you to get jealous when you see your mate dancing with someone else at a party, or while they’re hugging and kissing an old attractive “friend” whom they met after a long time.

But you know what, your partner’s behavior is completely acceptable.

Put yourself in their place, wouldn’t you hug or kiss a very good friend of the opposite sex if you bump into them after ages? Wouldn’t you be happy to see them? Have you ever found yourself flirting with someone while your partner wasn’t around? Wouldn’t you dance with a good looking friend if your partner’s too tired to dance anymore?

Jealousy pops out of your head, not by the actions of your partner or anything else, but by your own misconceptions. It’s all about the way you perceive and see things. Humans have a tendency of being pessimistic and hope for the worst when it comes to relationships, and this tendency affects your rational mind. If you were just sitting with your friends and you notice two of your friends who are dating each other having a petty fight over a bit of jealousy, wouldn’t you tell yourself that they were just acting stupid?

Now how are you behaving when you mistrust your partner all the time? The problem with dealing with jealousy in a relationship is that most people forget to put themselves into their partner’s shoes and see what they would have done. You may have had your share of fun too if you were in your lover’s place.

Jealousy in a relationship – Steps to handle it

It is normal to get jealous in love, but jealousy should never be shoved aside or pushed under the carpet. The only way to overcome jealousy in a relationship is by confronting it and overcoming it. At times you may be the one who’s feeling jealous, or at times, your partner may be the one. The best way to help each other is through effective communication and understanding.

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Listen to your partner, really!

Your partner may be trying to say something to you, so pay attention. Most of the times, when jealousy sets in, all your lover wants you to do is pay attention to them, and show them you still care. If you want to work this out, then both of you should be ready to listen to each other and hear what each of you have to say. Try to read your partner’s mind and their actions and give them enough attention if they’re feeling alone while you’re holding someone else’s hand.

Communicate and understand

If you’re annoyed with your partner about something, then just tell them about it. You may sulk and make the day worse for the both of you. Instead of plotting in your mind, just say what’s on your mind and you can work things out faster and have more time to spend in happiness, than in misery. And if your partner wants to tell you something, don’t walk away even if you feel like it makes no sense. Remember, what seems like nonsense to you could mean a lot to your partner when they are hurt and want your reassurance.

Read the signs

Most of the times, even if your partner is hurt or feeling low, they may not tell you anything about it. So look out for signs that suggest they’re upset about something. Give your sweetheart a hug, rub their shoulders or run your hands through their hair and talk to them. Coax your partner into saying what’s on their mind and let them know that they mean a lot to you. Sometimes, it’s easy to misunderstand, but it’s always easier to make a partner feel better if you try.

Put yourself in their shoes

One of the best ways to deal with jealousy in a relationship is to learn to put yourself in your lover’s shoes. What would you have done if you were in your lover’s place? Would you have behaved the same way? Try to always put yourself in their shoes and try and understand what your partner is going through. Perhaps, your partner is just being nice or trying to make a good impression. Does everything in the world have to revolve around your partner wanting to break up with you?


One of the best ways to deal with jealousy is to reassure your partner. If you get angry with your partner for getting jealous, things will only get worse. Tell your mate that you’re sorry to have neglected them, if you did neglect them. Or just reassure your mate and let them know how much you love them and care about them. When someone gets jealous, remember, more than anything else, they’re afraid of losing you and they want your attention, badly!

Jealousy and love

When you feel jealous in a relationship, remember that it’s not a bad sign and it’s not something to be ashamed of. It’s just that you care about someone too much and can’t imagine someone new taking them away from you. At times, you may not like your lover flirting with someone because you feel that they’re having a better time, even without you around. This brings out a feeling of insecurity which can turn into bitter jealousy. Jealousy can be cute if it’s experienced in moderation, but anything beyond that can change your happy relationship into a frustrated one.

Learn to relax and have a good time when you’re in love, instead of suspecting your lover all the time. Jealousy in a relationship is just a subconscious way to get attention, so learn to face situations and communicate with your partner when you feel low.

And always understand the importance of listening when your partner is depressed or angry for no apparent reason. At times like that, there’s almost always a big reason.

At times, jealousy in a relationship may seem trivial, but if not confronted and overcome, jealousy can burn your relationship apart. Understanding and reassurance is what it takes to hold your love together and overpower the green eyed monster that’s lurking in the corners, waiting to hurt you and make you hate your lover. So overcome jealousy in a relationship and reassure, communicate and fall in love with your sweetheart, more with every day!

5 Things Guys Have Been Using To Melt Ladies Heart -#5 is the bomb


1. WORDS: One weakness in ladies is their susceptibilty to sweet words.And guys have been using this from time immemorial. Though not present in all guys yet those who have it can bear me witness it works without any hitch. Your “I love you” to her sounds in her hearing a sweet melody.

2. ADMIRATION: Its a trigger. Admiring a Lady tear the heart opens. It makes them happy and happiness I say is exactly what Ladies want.Make her happy and she is yoursgrin one way to do that is Admiration

3. CONFUSION: Anything can happens when confusion sets it. She be like “The guy is real he loves me” Yes he is not that bad.Before she knows what’s happening yawa don gasgrin

4. PROMISES: I can see ladies raising their eyebrows. Sorry for bringing memories but Truth is it melt your heart like oxy-acetylene flame. The “I will” sydrome always work.

5. MONEY: The say have say the saygrin

Signs You’re Trapped in a Troubled Relationship


Does something feel a little off about your current relationship? We’ve got the 7 sure signs that you may be trapping yourself in a troubled union! By Minot Pettinato-Little

People have a natural inclination to partner up, whether it’s for procreation, sexual recreation or you’re just looking for that special life-long someone.

If you find yourself single for a long period of time, it starts to feel like you’d do anything to have a relationship. Suddenly anyone seems like they can offer dating potential, but only because you’re lonely. So what happens when you meet your match, and instead of sharing nights out and post-coital bliss, your happily-ever-after becomes happily-never-after?

Why do people feel trapped  and troubled in their own relationships?

There are many reasons to feel troubled in a relationship. Some are innocent and a part of human nature, while some are harmful to one’s wellbeing. The key to addressing an unhappy relationship is a 1-2-step:

#1 Assess your situation from both sides. Are you doing something that could be holding both of you back from a ridiculously happy life together? Are you really unhappy, or are you simply suffering from that 1-year-boredom-blues that happens in serious relationships?

#2Talk it out with your partner. Listen to their needs, explain yours, and give an honest go of making your relationship a success. And if it isn’t working, then you need to step out of your toxic environment and break it off officially and completely.

If you’re not quite sure if you’re just anxious, feeling troubled or genuinely unhappy with your partner, here are the 7 signs that may enlighten you.

#3 You’re unhappy. This is the easiest way to tell if you’re trapped in your relationship. While most people whine and pout about not having that special somebody, you’re wishing you could hit a fast-forward button whenever your partner is around. If you find yourself slipping into a relationship-based depression, or just plain cringe at the thought of coming home to your partner, then it might be time to open your eyes about the truth of your relationship.

Don’t feel bad. People lose interest, get bored, and move on from their romantic trysts. While it isn’t exactly a walk in the park, sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and end what isn’t working. Hey, relationships are hard and breakups are even harder. If you feel you’ve done everything you could do to try and save your relationship, or simply lost your gusto to even bother, get out of your relationship while you’re still sane.


How to be Friends With a Guy and Never Cross the Platonic Line


Women and men can surely be friends if they both decide not to cross the line. Here’s how to be friends with a guy and show him you’re only platonic.

There are way too many people out there who say men and women can’t be just friends. While the basis for their argument is a sound one, it’s just not at all true. So long as you both have a platonic understanding of one another, you can learn how to be friends with a guy.

The problem arises when one person tries to make a move for the other. It can also be an issue when you’re both single and hang out all the time. If other people assume you’re a couple, you may need to remember a few rules to make sure you don’t cross that platonic line.

Some people can be attracted to one another but completely wrong for each other

This is another reason you might want to know how to be friends with a guy without getting too intimate. Even though you can be attracted to him and he might feel the same, there may be a very big reason it would never work out. Perhaps you both have different beliefs or want different things in life.

The point is, you still want them in your life but you know you could never be with them romantically. However, it’s not always easy to stop yourself. Knowing what to do to remain platonic can help.

How to be friends with a guy and never cross that line

If you have a guy you want to stay friends with but aren’t sure how you can prevent crossing the line, we can help. Here are all the ways you can avoid going overboard that will also help keep him in line, too.

#1 Let him know how you feel asap. This means you just need to tell him right away that friendship is all he’ll get from you. Sure, your feelings might grow down the line and his could, too, but this way, you’re telling him right away that it will never happen.

#2 Create at least a little distance. Don’t be talking to them and trying to be around them all the time. The more you distance yourself from him, the easier it’ll be to remain platonic friends. Let some texts go unanswered, but obviously not all of them. If he thinks you’re not any more interested in him than as just friends, he won’t try anything.

#3 Ask your friends for help sometimes. Your friends can create a really nice barrier between you and him. If you’re feeling particularly affectionate toward him, ask your friends to step in. Have them remind you of why you can’t be with him and you’ll come to your senses.

#4 Get away from him if things are getting a little heated. If you start to have feelings for him or are flirting quite a bit, create some distance. Get away from him and remove yourself from that situation.

Don’t let yourself carry on to a point you can’t come back from. Stop the flirting on your end right away and ignore any flirting that comes from him. It’ll be much easier to remain friends if you don’t get involved in that.

 #5 Pursue other people. Find someone else to keep you occupied! If your attention and time is spent on someone else, it’ll prevent anything from blossoming between you and your friends. Plus, you’ll still be able to remain friends even if you’re dating someone else.

#6 Don’t get drunk with him alone. This is probably the worst idea anyone could have, ever. Never get drunk with your guy friend if you want to remain as just friends. Sometimes it’s fine, but everything is increased when you get drunk.

That means if you have even the slightest bit of affection for him, it’ll come out a lot more when you’re drunk with him. If you want to know how to be friends with a guy and nothing more, don’t get drunk together without someone else there.

#7 Avoid spending time together alone in general. Even if you’re not drinking, spending alone time together isn’t a good idea. It’ll feel very date-like even if you two are just friends. Remember that you’re trying to be friends and not end up dating this person!

8 Try not to skirt around the issue. Meaning, don’t ignore your feelings or the sexual tension if you feel any. Admit to yourself that you do feel something for him. Ignoring them will only make you grow closer to him and it’ll ruin the friendship altogether.

#9 Don’t get physical in any way. No hugging or flirty touches. It’s not really appropriate if you’re trying to avoid falling for that person. If you don’t have any feelings for him at all, sure a hug here and there is fine. But you don’t want to make it seem like you do have affection for him, which means avoiding any physical touching.

10 Don’t let people assume stuff. If others are calling you two boyfriend and girlfriend, put an end to it. Neither of you needs to start thinking of the other in this way and stopping it will help avoid you two slipping into those respective roles.

#11 Shut down their advances if they make any. If he starts making moves and stuff toward you, shut him down. Don’t just ignore them because that won’t make them go away at all.

You need to actually shut them down and communicate that you’re not interested. Obviously, in order to maintain your friendship, you can’t be mean about it. However, you do have to be rather stern so he knows you’re not just joking or messing around in any way.

#12 Remember why you want to remain platonic. This will help you the most. You need to keep reminding yourself why you only want to be friends and why a relationship would never work. If you keep thinking of those reasons whenever you have the urge to be something more, it’ll help keep you sane.

23 Types of Relationships to Define Your Love Life


Relationships are unique, but there are a few traits that can define each type. Use these 23 types of relationships to find out where you fit in.

When you fall in love with someone, you can’t really predict the direction of the relationship.

The relationship could be perfect.

Or at times, it could be the worst thing you would have to endure.

But the hope of perfect romance always makes us take a chance.

Every new relationship you find yourself in is a whole new experience, even if you’ve been in several relationships already.

The experience of your past relationships can help you better your love life, and become a better lover *unless you’re still hooked to your ex*.

But no matter how many love affairs you’ve had, you can’t ever predict the outcome of a relationship until you’re waist deep in it.

The different types of relationships

Not all relationships that you’ll experience in your life may be a pleasant experience.

Some lovers may be selfish, and some others may be unfaithful.

But now and then, you may come across someone who seems just perfect for you.

So what separates a perfect relationship from the bad ones?

In reality, there’s just one thing separating the everlasting romance from the bad ones. And that’s compatibility.

You may be a great lover who’s selfless and giving, but if you’re dating someone who isn’t compatible with your expectations from love, the relationship can leave both of you feeling bitter and mean.

Compatibility and perfect relationships

Take a moment to think about this, because understanding this line can make the difference between good lovers and bad romances. A perfect relationship doesn’t need two perfect lovers, all a perfect romance needs is two people who have the same great expectations from love.

 If two partners give and take equally in a relationship, both of them will be happy forever. But when this thin balance topples over, the relationship starts to get shaky.

There are many kinds of unique relationships that you could experience in your lifetime. But all of them can be summarized into these 23 types of relationships.

When you first enter into a relationship with a special someone, you may not be able to predict the kind of relationship you’re in. But within a few months, you’ll know exactly which type you and your lover could fall into.

If you’re happy with the type of relationship you’re in, good for you. But if you aren’t, communicate with your partner. It can help better the compatibility and help both of you understand each other better.

#1 The codependent relationship. Do you need your partner to function efficiently in your life? This is the kind of relationship where you’re too dependent on your partner, and completely rely on them to help you with your decision making.

#2 The controlling relationship. One partner plays a dominant role in the romance, while the other partner just follows the rules. You may not realize you’re being dominated for a very long time, until you start getting frustrated and feeling helpless.

#3 The held-by-loss relationship. Both of you have lost a lover or have experienced a painful breakup recently, and have come together because both of you just needed somebody to love and get loved in return. The is very common, and almost always a rebound relationship with someone just to fill the emptiness inside.

4 The open relationship. An open relationship is a relationship where both partners are emotionally committed to each other. But sexually, well, not so much. Both partners have sx with other people outside the relationship with each other’s consent.

#5 The negotiation relationship. Both of you are happy with each other, but every now and then, there are a lot of negotiations and compromises from both sides just to keep the other partner happy.

#6 Toxic relationships. Toxic relationships are relationships that seem pleasant from the outside, but for some explainable reason, they suck the life and happiness out of you. You’re frustrated or annoyed most of the time, and you have no idea why.

#7 The pastime fling. You’re in love with your partner, but you’re not so in love that you make future plans with each other. You’re happy for now, but somewhere inside, you’re convinced that the relationship won’t work out or last forever.

 #8 The asexual relationship. Both of you are sexually attractive and even get attracted to the opposite sex. But both of you aren’t interested in having sx with each other. The routine of lovemaking may have bored you and you may not care for it anymore.

#9 The trophy relationship. You’re dating your partner because it makes you look better or gives you something materialistic in return. Gold diggers and men with trophy wives are the best fit for this type of relationship. The love in this relationship may be true, but the foundation of the relationship is built on shallow material ground instead of romantic compatibility.

#10 The sexual affair. You’re in the relationship only for the sx. There’s no emotional connection and you just don’t care about building the love. You’re sexually infatuated by your partner, and you don’t care how they treat you as long as you get physical intimacy.

#11 The distracted relationship. Many college sweethearts experience this type of relationship several years down the road. Both partners are in love, but completely invisible to each other. They’re too focused on their careers or the kids to give enough time to each other.

#12 The imperfect relationship. You know your relationship isn’t perfect, but you don’t really want to change it. You don’t complain, because you’ve accepted your partner and your life to be less than perfect. And you feel you can’t change anything even if you want to.

#13 The unhappy relationship. You’re not happy in your relationship, but you’re still staying back, not for love, but for something else, like your kids or what society will think of you.

#14 The long distance relationship. Both of you love each other and are connected to each other emotionally. But physically, both of you live in two different area codes and share minimal physical intimacy. You’d have to deal with insecurities and jealously, and several bouts of suspicion now and then.

#15 The complicated relationship. Complicated relationships are the trickiest kind of relationships. Both partners may know that things aren’t perfect in lovel and, either because of the involvement of a third person, or because of the incompatibility, but yet both of you have no idea how to fix the issue or deal with it. #16 The emotional relationship. This is the kind of secret affair you have with someone other than your own partner. You may not realize you’re falling for this person, but you’d be completely addicted to them in reality. So much so, that you’d willingly jeopardize your own perfect relationship to be with this other person.

#17 Friends with benefits. The friends with benefits relationship is a completely no strings attached agreement between two people, where there’s sexual intimacy and nothing more. But almost every single time, one or both partners end up falling in love. The fact that both of you only hooked up for casual sx in the first place makes it very easy for both of you to feel insecure in this relationship.

#18 The love-hate relationship. There’s loads of chemistry and sexual attraction in this relationship. But as much as there is love and passion, there’s the same amount of hate and frustration. Both of you are crazy about each other, and yet, can’t stand each other at times. This can be fun for a while, but unless both of you fix the issue, it’ll start to get very tiresome in the long run.

#19 The insecure relationship. Both of you may lead your own independent lives and have your own friends. And as much as you try to convince your partner that you’re loyal, your partner may always assume you’re cheating or are interested in someone else. You can help your partner to a certain extent, but beyond a point, you can’t do much but let go.

#20 The abusive relationship. This is the kind of relationship where one partner holds the reins and controls the other partner, either verbally or physically. If a partner ever tries to control you or uses their hand on you, walk away at the very first instance. As hard as it may seem, you have no choice here. You could try to convince yourself that it was a one-off incident, but it almost never is.

#21 May December relationships. Are you in a relationship with someone who’s at least a decade and a half older or younger than you? Then you’d qualify for the May December romance. Compatibility matters here, but beyond that, you still need to learn to deal with different expectations from each other, family, and the views of your friends.

#22 The sacrificial relationship. This is unconditional love in its worst form. You’re dating someone you truly love with all your heart, but your partner doesn’t seem to love you with the same intensity as you love them. And even if both of you are really nice people who are perfect for each other, this kind of relationship will only lead to bitter fights and helpless tears.

#23 The truly compatible romance. This is the hardest type of relationship to find. But then again, this is the only definition of a perfectly romantic relationship. Both of you are compatible and completely understand each other, and accept each other for who both of you are. There’s love in the air, and everyone else is envious of your relationship


8 Sure Signs Your Long Distant Relation Is Coming To An End




Being in a long distant relationship isn’t a piece of cake and with the pro’s comes many con’s. It believed that those in long distant relationships tend to break up more than those who see regularly. There’s no proof to back up this statement. Here are some telltale signs that your long distant relationship might be hitting the rocks

1. THERE IS AN ALWAYS EXCUSE: If either of you are constantly making up an excuse to why you cannot talk, it might be a red flag. You can always carve out a #little bit of your day to Skype or call your partner.
Make sure you are not exaggerating how busy you are to get out of communicating.

2. YOU START FOCUSING ON THE NEGATIVES: There must be some reason you are in a long distance relationship.
Some positives of your partner that you love so much you are willing to risk all of the negatives for them.
If you find yourself focusing so much on all the negatives of either your partner or the long distance relationship, then maybe you are not willing to risk it anymore. Long distance relationships are incredibly hard, and it is not uncommon to notice the negatives. But if it is all you can think about for more than a month, that is one of the big signs your long distance relationship ending.

3. YOU START AVOIDING PROBLEM SOLVING: Because you get to choose when to talk to your partner, it is easy to avoid talking to them. You may avoid talking about your problems or communicating at all.
Both are warning signs. A key part of maintaining any relationship is working through your problems. It is important to make sure that you don’t use long distance as an excuse to avoid your problems because it is so easy to stop any communication.

4. THERE IS NO CHAT ABOUT THE FUTURE: If you are in a long distance relationship, you must be dedicated towards a future, or else you wouldn’t put yourself through the tough times that come along with it. If you and your partner stop talking about what the future brings, how can you ever expect your long distance relationship to turn into a close relationship? You should not feel that your relationship has reached its peak when you two are apart.

5. AWKWARDNESS IN PERSON: When you finally get a chance to visit you two should be thrilled! If he looks bored or acts awkward, then there must be a reason behind his strangeness. Maybe he’s just shy, because he’s used to talking to you over electronics, but maybe his feelings for you have changed. Maybe

6.YOU ARE ALWAYS FRUSTRATED: Trust me, I get how frustrating long distance relationships can be. But, if you find yourself constantly annoyed at your partner, frustrated at your relationship, or even frustrated at yourself, it may be one of the signs that your long distance relationship is ending. The whole point of a relationship is to make you happy. If your long distance relationship makes you constantly angry, why remain in it?

7. OVERLY JEALOUS: When you tell a story about a guy/girl that you work with, does your boy/girlfriend flip out? If he/she gets way too jealous anytime you mention another girl/guy, your relationship won’t last long.
Jealousy and long distance relationships don’t mix well. If he/she doesn’t trust you, it’ll be over soon.

8. NO MORE “I LOVE YOU’S”: When you’re in a long distance relationship, words are incredibly important.
Since you can’t hug or kiss your partner, you need to show them you care with your words.
If your boy/girlfriend used to tell you that he loved you every single day, but refuses to say it now, then something’s wrong.